When I see people who do well at work, they seem to have high self-esteem. The people who are successful on social media, seem to have high self-confidence and self-esteem. How could they do that?
How do successful people have high self-esteem?
Seeing that, I was always worried. I hear that I do well at work, but I always had anxiety and fear behind that kind of appearance.
Moreover, I was anxious because I was obsessed with not being left behind in the prejudice of being a foreigner and a woman.
I would like to share this book as an opportunity to change my point of view through a book that I came across by chance.
The anxiety and fear behind the successful appearance, the questions about whether I am…
I think this may be the way I used to be.
Always “What am I doing here?” “This is not where I belong” was the dominant thought.
Take off the mask – Impostor Syndrome
In her book, The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: by Valerie Young (Author), this feeling is called imposter Syndrome, and one such symptom is that you feel like an imposter who wears a mask and hides his true face.
“It’s only because they like me.” “I was in the right place at the right time.” “I just work harder than the others. I don’t deserve this.”
It’s just a matter of time before I am found out. Someone must have made a terrible mistake.
If you are a working woman, chances are this internal monologue sounds all too familiar. And you’re not alone. From the high-achieving Ph.D. candidate convinced she’s only been admitted to the program because of a clerical error to the senior executive who worries others will find out she’s in way over her head, a shocking number of accomplished women in all career paths and at every level feel as though they are faking it—impostors in their own lives and careers.
These emotions, in a word, affect self-esteem. In short, low self-esteem, a state of low self-esteem.
In a state of low self-esteem, it indicates a conflict between your self-perception and the way others perceive you.
You spend success with timing and luck, even if others praise your talents. You don’t believe you got it on your own merits and you’re afraid that others will eventually realize the same.
As a result, these fears press themselves into another stressor.
Over time, this can fuel a vicious cycle of anxiety, depression, and guilt.
Appearing Types of Impostor Syndrome
A prominent impostor syndrome researcher, Dr. Valerie Young, in her 2011 book, “The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Effective People Suffer from Scammer Syndrome and How to Prosper nonetheless,” explains that five main types of people suffer from masquerade syndrome.
Perfectionist
You focus primarily on the way you do things and often get to the point where you demand perfection in every aspect of your life.
Natural genius
Your belief that competent people can handle everything without the slightest difficulty makes you feel like a scammer when you are in trouble.
A strong individualist (or soloist)
I think you should be able to handle everything by yourself. If you cannot succeed independently, you feel worthless.
Professional
Because you think the answer to every problem is something you need to know, you can think of yourself as a scammer or a loser when you can’t answer a question or access knowledge you’ve previously missed.
Superhero
I believe that you need to be successful in any role: student, friend, employee, or parent.
Practice to Overcome impostor syndrome
In my case, many parts are sympathetic and similar, but how about you?
So, don’t you feel obligated to say that there is no way to overcome the impostor syndrome and improve self-esteem?
Overcome Impostror Syndrome to improve self-esteem
Many books and papers suggest the following methods.
1. Self-aware
Let’s go. The first thing we need to do is to recognize and correct the wrong thoughts or beliefs we have. Also, don’t forget to identify the positives.
As an example of good practice, say a positive affirmation out loud in the mirror every morning.
2. Build positive human relationships.
Build relationships with people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid relationships that make you depressed.
3. Take a break for yourself.
The main thing is not to be too harsh on yourself. Be kind to yourself and don’t be too critical. Treating yourself for success in a difficult task or for having a particularly difficult day can help boost your self-esteem.
4. Set boundaries and learn to say “no”.
People with low self-esteem find it difficult to say no to others. This can increase stress and make it more difficult to manage. Acting on your convictions can help boost your confidence!
5. Take care Yourself
People with low self-esteem often neglect themselves because they feel they are not ‘deserving’ to be cared for. Get more exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep.
6. Try the challenge.
People with low self-esteem often avoid challenging situations.
One way to boost your self-esteem is to challenge yourself.
Part of the challenge may be getting help when you need it. But be prepared to try something you know will be difficult to achieve. You realize that even small challenges can be achieved by succeeding.
This will challenge your negative beliefs and thus improve your self-esteem.
Conclusion – How to practice to increase your self-esteem
If these methods are not put into practice, they are just papers.
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